Be yourself or?

Suddenly this popped out into my mind! Should you be yourself or should you be someone others want you to be?

This is a very tough question. I guess few years back, I did discuss something similar to this and I guess my conclusion is "be yourself" because in my point of view, there is no way one can please EVERYONE. So why wanna bother to change yourself just for other people's sakes?

But now, as a working adult, I started to doubt my decision. M I right or wrong to be myself?

In social norms - Men have to be macho, strong and should be the decision maker; While women have to be soft, polite, gentle and weak. This is the common social norms ever since stone age? Cos at that point of time, the men will go out and hunt while the women will stay in the cave to wait for the men's returns.

However, with the revolution.. things are so different now. Most of the women now do not depend on men for living. We can survive even though without men. Some of us are even stronger and tougher than men. I believe this is the reason why, we no more restricted to the social norms of what a men should be and what a women should be.

I often faced reminder like "Can you please more polite/gentle/soft & etc?". Sometimes this really annoyed me. What is wrong to be who I am now? Just because I am a lady so I should ACT like one. Yes, I bold the word - ACT. Some of the girls, they are really gentle, soft and polite its because their family background and the way they are brought up. Or some are actually are BORN like this.

I don't mind my friends being gentle/soft/polite/weak if they are naturally like this but I feel disgusting if they are not like this but they pretended to be. Why should we pretend when we are not one? Just because people thinks that it is RIGHT for a girl to be like this so we need to follow? How about being Honest, Sincere, True and Real? Don't tell me all these need not to be followed?

I remembered once my friend told me that - Pretty girls should have long hair. Those with short hair are so boyish! He felt disgusting when he saw girls with short hair! Okay lah, maybe thats how he define pretty girls la but at the bottom of my heart, I was thinking - What the Fuck oh?!

So if I would have to apply my friend's bullshit theory, it will be the 1st pix of Rihanna, she is a women/lady but for the 2nd pix, she is a transgender? For me, both also look stunning & fabulous because she is still Rihanna despite which hairstyle she has.

I understand why my friend got such thinking. He is just a typical China-man. Women in the past, they need to keep long hair to symbolize feminine. But now we are talking about 21st century, where no more pigeons are used to deliver letter. So why not move on?

Another thing is about Foul language

I often heard guys saying: "Eh, girls cannot say one ah.. very impolite/rude lor".. *clear throat*.. Excuse me, I beg your pardon?!

Does it mean that guys can say but girls cant? What kind of logic is this? Who set the rules saying that foul language are only for guys?

Yes, I understand it is NOT NICE to use foul language but isn't it for guys and girls also the same? But honestly lah, most of my friends are using foul language most of the time. But none of them mean anything. It is just a habit I believe. And I don't think they are impolite people lor.

In example: A person who never speak foul language before is categorized as POLITE/nice peep; So does it mean when he hit an old woman but never apologized still can be called as POLITE?

Sometimes, we cannot just judge a person just because a certain things that they are doing. Isn't everything have to based on the overall? N most important, why do we need to JUDGE at the 1st place? I mean who are we to judge?

Well, everyone has their own opinion/perspective/point of view of what I have just discussed here. I think after writing such a long post, I already have my answer.

I will NOT be fake to be someone else because at the end of the day, people are gonna found out who you really are. That time, they are gonna call you a liar/faker/pretender/actor/actress because all the while, you are not being you.

I will still choose to be myself but I will not reveal too much of me for those I don't feel like revealing to.

Yes, I never a girl who are good in being a real lady as in I am not gentle, I am rough, I am tough and I am impolite cos I used foul language too as I just used the word "fuck" in one of my para above. But so? I am just being honest, sincere, true and real and most important, for those who know me, you are really associating with the REAL ME.

The only thing that I could share for those who don't like ME for being ME/have an issue with me, you may leave & look for someone else! *big smile* because i cannot get you a banana when all the while you are looking for an orange ^_____^

At the end of my post I will like to share:-

Being you is very important because at the end of the day, you will not feel miserable if people complaint about you. But if you were pretending as someone else & still got complaint from others, you will feel superb miserable because you don't know who you need to be next to make sure that person is pleased.

That's all for today. Bf is waiting and almost wanna doze off!!!

Happy weekend everyone

Love,

Missbunnie

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I got a comment from my Uni mate, as I kinda agreed with her comment and she couldn't post her comment at my bloggie. So I have decided to add it under my post

Apple DiDi

• hi girl...i saw your blog, but i dunno why i cant post comment..but what i wanna say is
  
  
  i agree what you say...women no need to rely on men, and we're not born to be soft,polite, we are just to be ourselves. As long as we are happy and no harm to others.
  
  have one Taiwan actress said: "no need to waste your time to make some one dislike you turn to like you,just let them be!because, use your energy to love those who love you is much more worth it." i agree on this and love this very much~~~❤❤

Thanks apple for the comment! :))

N thanks for reading my blog