Be yourself or?

Suddenly this popped out into my mind! Should you be yourself or should you be someone others want you to be?

This is a very tough question. I guess few years back, I did discuss something similar to this and I guess my conclusion is "be yourself" because in my point of view, there is no way one can please EVERYONE. So why wanna bother to change yourself just for other people's sakes?

But now, as a working adult, I started to doubt my decision. M I right or wrong to be myself?

In social norms - Men have to be macho, strong and should be the decision maker; While women have to be soft, polite, gentle and weak. This is the common social norms ever since stone age? Cos at that point of time, the men will go out and hunt while the women will stay in the cave to wait for the men's returns.

However, with the revolution.. things are so different now. Most of the women now do not depend on men for living. We can survive even though without men. Some of us are even stronger and tougher than men. I believe this is the reason why, we no more restricted to the social norms of what a men should be and what a women should be.

I often faced reminder like "Can you please more polite/gentle/soft & etc?". Sometimes this really annoyed me. What is wrong to be who I am now? Just because I am a lady so I should ACT like one. Yes, I bold the word - ACT. Some of the girls, they are really gentle, soft and polite its because their family background and the way they are brought up. Or some are actually are BORN like this.

I don't mind my friends being gentle/soft/polite/weak if they are naturally like this but I feel disgusting if they are not like this but they pretended to be. Why should we pretend when we are not one? Just because people thinks that it is RIGHT for a girl to be like this so we need to follow? How about being Honest, Sincere, True and Real? Don't tell me all these need not to be followed?

I remembered once my friend told me that - Pretty girls should have long hair. Those with short hair are so boyish! He felt disgusting when he saw girls with short hair! Okay lah, maybe thats how he define pretty girls la but at the bottom of my heart, I was thinking - What the Fuck oh?!

So if I would have to apply my friend's bullshit theory, it will be the 1st pix of Rihanna, she is a women/lady but for the 2nd pix, she is a transgender? For me, both also look stunning & fabulous because she is still Rihanna despite which hairstyle she has.

I understand why my friend got such thinking. He is just a typical China-man. Women in the past, they need to keep long hair to symbolize feminine. But now we are talking about 21st century, where no more pigeons are used to deliver letter. So why not move on?

Another thing is about Foul language

I often heard guys saying: "Eh, girls cannot say one ah.. very impolite/rude lor".. *clear throat*.. Excuse me, I beg your pardon?!

Does it mean that guys can say but girls cant? What kind of logic is this? Who set the rules saying that foul language are only for guys?

Yes, I understand it is NOT NICE to use foul language but isn't it for guys and girls also the same? But honestly lah, most of my friends are using foul language most of the time. But none of them mean anything. It is just a habit I believe. And I don't think they are impolite people lor.

In example: A person who never speak foul language before is categorized as POLITE/nice peep; So does it mean when he hit an old woman but never apologized still can be called as POLITE?

Sometimes, we cannot just judge a person just because a certain things that they are doing. Isn't everything have to based on the overall? N most important, why do we need to JUDGE at the 1st place? I mean who are we to judge?

Well, everyone has their own opinion/perspective/point of view of what I have just discussed here. I think after writing such a long post, I already have my answer.

I will NOT be fake to be someone else because at the end of the day, people are gonna found out who you really are. That time, they are gonna call you a liar/faker/pretender/actor/actress because all the while, you are not being you.

I will still choose to be myself but I will not reveal too much of me for those I don't feel like revealing to.

Yes, I never a girl who are good in being a real lady as in I am not gentle, I am rough, I am tough and I am impolite cos I used foul language too as I just used the word "fuck" in one of my para above. But so? I am just being honest, sincere, true and real and most important, for those who know me, you are really associating with the REAL ME.

The only thing that I could share for those who don't like ME for being ME/have an issue with me, you may leave & look for someone else! *big smile* because i cannot get you a banana when all the while you are looking for an orange ^_____^

At the end of my post I will like to share:-

Being you is very important because at the end of the day, you will not feel miserable if people complaint about you. But if you were pretending as someone else & still got complaint from others, you will feel superb miserable because you don't know who you need to be next to make sure that person is pleased.

That's all for today. Bf is waiting and almost wanna doze off!!!

Happy weekend everyone

Love,

Missbunnie

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I got a comment from my Uni mate, as I kinda agreed with her comment and she couldn't post her comment at my bloggie. So I have decided to add it under my post

Apple DiDi

• hi girl...i saw your blog, but i dunno why i cant post comment..but what i wanna say is
  
  
  i agree what you say...women no need to rely on men, and we're not born to be soft,polite, we are just to be ourselves. As long as we are happy and no harm to others.
  
  have one Taiwan actress said: "no need to waste your time to make some one dislike you turn to like you,just let them be!because, use your energy to love those who love you is much more worth it." i agree on this and love this very much~~~❤❤

Thanks apple for the comment! :))

N thanks for reading my blog

Papa in the house!

Finally my papa is back for Yoga!
The super easy downward facing dog posture

The super cute instructor gave us this hard posture which none of us can do but my papa can! However, he fell several times before he can get it right!

Finally after a few falls, he did it! *yeah*
Lastly enclosed the pix of the super cute yoga instructor! *melt*

Well, the pix is blur because I dare not take a close shot of him. Paiseh! haha..

Felt super duper tired but at the same time, super syok as well!! I love Yoga yo!~

That's the end of my Wednesday! :))

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Lastly there is something which crossed my mind that I wished to write down :)

I have heard many people saying this - "Ok lor, in order not to make mistakes, I will not..."

Example: If one commented that your cooking sucks, what will u say?

I guess the normal "solution" will be: "Then ah, I don't cook lor"

This - Sibeh TURN OFF -.-

But I was wondering how come the "solution" cannot be like

"Ok. If that's the case, I will try harder the next time. Maybe I should go and dig out my grandma's recipe! I will ensure u that you are so gonna drool over my cooking when the next time I cook!"

This - Super TURN ON!

I really don't understand how come when one made mistake and the solution offered is always "I will not ...." instead of "I will...". Honestly I dont get it lor because somehow I don't see this as a SOLUTION at all! Because it means that there is no need to improve because one just think that, I don't do anything that no mistakes lor. But how about the mistakes that one had committed in the past? Is this the way one should amend it?

Weird isn't?!

Whatever lah! I don't think I will ever understand :)) Lazy to think as well as I'm really tired already! Time to hug my bolster and sniff sniff my pillow and (^(oo)^)zzZzzzz

Good night peeps!

Love,

Missbunnie

Map from Leisure Mall to Sg Long

Drew this map last week as my buyer did not know the way from Cheras Leisure Mall to Sg Long. Buyer? lol.. Ya, I sold out my old CRT Hp monitor & my computer table last week.

At 1st the buyer wanted to meet up at Cheras Leisure Mall but I insist to meet in Sg Long as I do not know how to dismantle the computer table and baby Lee's car is TOO small to fit the big fella~ LOL!

In the end, the buyer had no choice but to ask me to draw him a map so he could come to Sg Long after his work.

I'm not good in drawing and recognizing the road, but I tried my best to draw and these are my masterpieces. I believed I drew them in detail! XD

when I was drawing this, I thought of someone and the incident.

Signing off with ♥

reason, season or lifetime :)

this afternoon when i was reading my biatch.. i discovered something, something tat makes me a little bit upset.

i know i shouldn't get upset over it but just tat.. why am i always being missed out by my friends? M i tat bad? i admitted tat i aint putting much efforts in maintaining those so called friendship.. but i DO treat her and always keep her a space in my heart. i know tat aint enough but ya, thats what i can do the most and also the least i could do :S

but after chatting with my most best friend on earth, i felt so much better and not feeling upset anymore. he was right, friends are not for life! at least i haven met someone like this yet. i once read an article titled "season, reason and lifetime" and i did once wrote about it at my blog. this article stated tat the friends tat we met along our path are divided into 3 main categories, which are season, reason and lifetime.

friends tat belongs to season, come and stay for a period then they leave. friends tat come for a reason, they lefted when their "missions" accomplished and last but not least, lifetime friends can be either a friend/friends or our partner(husband or wife)..

♥Friends tat come into ur life for a REASON it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

♥When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season

♥LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person or people involved; and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships, and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

my readers, which one would u be? :P

凡是看开点，日子好过点..

i would have to always bear this on mind. the less i expect, the greater result i will get. even if i dont have much friends but at least i still have God, my family and him. even if one day he might leave me, i still have God and my family. i believe they will always by my side.

chatted with mummy just now, i realised tat she is getting older each and every day. i love her a lot and its beyond words. mummy had sacrifised alot for us and for our family. i wanna love her more and make her angry less but its kinda hard in times. i will try to be good and love her with all i could. i might not be as lucky as those rich kids out there as their lives are just too good to be true. but i know tat i'm super lucky enough in terms of having such a great mum. :) she makes me realised tat no matter what happened, she would always be there and protect us. ♥

RMP test is on tis friday & i read nothing yet.

time to study.

GOOD LUCK TO ME!

:)

shame

yesterday when we were on our way back, i suddenly came out with the topic of "a dog's life".

i felt that doggy's life pretty same with a human's life as doggy too experience upturns and downturns in life or in another word, they experienced this -- 同狗不同命 -- too..


some doggies were very very lucky, like the Chihuahua in the movie - Beverly Hill's Chihuahua.. it has a very rich owner who loves it a lot! she bought her branded clothes, fed her yummilicious food each and every meal, provided her the most comfy dog house ever, brought her to spa & etc. but on the other hand, some doggies just not as lucky as it, they might have owner but their owners might not be able to provide them with what the Chihuahua has. these doggies might felt depressed when they saw this Chihuahua cos they were all doggies, why this particular Chihuahua is having such a good life?! so when these doggies were complaining, they never know that there are tons and tons of doggies out there that do not have a home nor a owner.

i know i sound silly here cos how would i know what doggies are thinking. but isnt it true? maybe doggies are way simple lah.. they never make things so complicated. only we, human will think such way.

i've seen so many people complaining about their lives, of cos i'm one of them. we used to envy and admire those people who are richer than us and start wondering, why cant we be the same as them? why is God so unfair? but at the same time, why cant we just think the other way round that actually we are very lucky d to have what we are having now. SHAME on us.

• when we were complaining our food taste yucky, we never tot that there are so many people out there would actually consider our food yummy because as long as it is CLEAN FOOD, they would eat it gracefully. unlike us, spoilt brats.
  
• when we were complaining that we are ugly and started to hate how we look, have we ever tot that there are people out there whom just merely wish that they could just be as complete as others & that would actually be the best gift for them d. in addition, altho they were borned not as complete as others but they still live their lives to the fullest. most importantly, they love themselves more than anyone on earth.
• when we were actually crying down there, pathetically saying that our bfs/gfs dumped us & we acted like as if that it is the end of the world & nobody would loves us anymore, have we ever tot that we are so silly cos we still have our family to love us. some just wish they could just have a family.
  
• when we were complaining and cursing our studies, have we ever tot that there areeople out there would actually sacrifise everything or anything just to be in our situations?

we are just a bunch of spolit brats! boo**..


from now on,

• i should be good.
  
• i should not to be a brat.
• i shall not complain to God about this and that instead i should thank him each and every day for what he had given me.
  
• i should not be unhappy over silly billy things.
• i should ♥ my family, king & myself more. frens, okok enough d :p
• spend money wisely!
• try to help more people (as in those really in need. eg: kids in africa)
• live my life to the fullest.
• stop hating/bothering about some tiny little pathetic enemies of mine as they are just time wasting and most importantly it is against my point 4
  
• study hard & smart
• stop being lazy
• pray more, love God more, praise him more

The end :)

yesterday's pics!!! i had a great time with him~

dunno what happen, yesterday jam like nobody's business :S

the silly king of mine

me muka pucat! sleepy @.@

using his phone's Garmin.. CHIO!

new accessory for my pana baby - pink fluffy ball :)

i bling-ed my pana baby.. i know its weird rite, but i heart! :p

reaching ONE U *finally*

it was a sunny day :)

i heart the blue blue sky! saje~ haha

new "cloth" for my pana baby!

actually i saw this casing at Roxy last week but didn't grab it as it displayed in the display window and if i wanted to see the price of it, i need to ask for the sales assistant's help. i was too malu to ask the SA to take it out for me cos i afraid that if i ended up not buying, will be damn paiseh.. so in the end, i lefted Roxy :S

but due to the existing casing really too lousy d.. keep "hurting" my pana baby, i had no choice but to search for a new casing for it to protect it.. so we decided to check it out at the Roxy store even if we might end up not buying it..

thank God that day i walked out from Roxy cos yesterday wen we entered, we realised that Roxy is now having sales and the casing that i like is now having 40% discount! *phew*..

so we went to check out the price and for my profound amazement, the price of that casing after discount is reasonable la.. so i BOUGHT it and pana baby was damn happy as it has a new "cloth" lu! :)


basically we went in each and every shops in One Utama. For sure we wun miss Zara cos Zara is also having sales now. Final Further Markdown. *drool*..

there are quite a number of clothes that i like are having further markdown now. really thank God i didn't buy any of them earlier if not i sure regret big time. most of the Tees there are RM39.90. reasonable :)

but i aint gonna get any tops already cos my hangers are all occupied ^^"

so i was targeting to get skirt. i'm glad i've found something i like from the further markdown section. wee* happy happy happy!!! *jumping in joy*

what adds on to my happiness is -- i got this bag from KP!!! one more new bag to use for class :P

i'm happy and sleepy now.. time to sleep :p